Dating someone who is going through a divorce
I've been dating a friend who is in the midst of a divorce.
I have liked him for years and supported him emotionally during this difficult time.
“That’s cool,” I said, as if what he’d said was no big deal. When I questioned her way of going about it, she said to me, “you seem to be just fine, like you’re moving on, but it seems like she needs a friend.” Filled with rage and wanting to cry, I said, “Oh, OK, I get it now. Being the least gossipy of the gossipers, I had been irked recently when one of the members accused me, in a subtle and perhaps unaware way, of causing her problems for having gossiped.
Enraged from my conversation with R., I sent an email to P., one of the members of my group, copying A. In it, I accused her of being as gossipy as other gossipers.
Only a month after all this he is backing away, acting distant and telling me we need to sit down and have a long talk. He is closing up his old life and moving to a new life with you. I think that I am suffering from a bit of depression and it has affected how I am responding to his comments.
He already had two children already and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind 3 months in as I could sense it and I ignored the signs as I didn't want to face the consequences of that outcome.
Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.
Dating while going through a divorce can have a number of negative effects on the divorce proceedings, both in court and emotionally.
Additionally, while every state is now a no-fault divorce state, marital misconduct can still be considered in some situations.